okay listen. julliard is incredibly difficult to get into. like I cannot stress enough how difficult this school is to get into. like the kids who get in work their asses off to get in, okay. and I’m not saying Brandon is lazy, but he’s kind of lazy. and not to mention his hand accident being a major barrier in his ability to practice and train. ALSO listen, we’ve all heard his compositions. and like. they’re really not that good. I mean idk I’ve made it very clear that I am extremely anti Brandon so maybe this is just my bias showing but I’ll tell you one thing. I have friends who pretty much did nothing but practice and still did not have a shot at julliard. it’s a really damn hard school to get into
His technique was also HORRIBLE during the audition. I would be ashamed of myself if my hands were positioned like that during an audition…..
transitioning is something that seriously changes your life for ever, you are in a sense modifying your body and it has permanent consequences.
only do it if you are 1000% sure it’s what you want.
It’s not a phase.
as a trans girl i have to say, transitioning should not be something able for people to do on a whim. for this exact reason. if you have any but the most minuscule doubts, DONT. talk to therapists, talk to hormone specialists. make sure this IS what you want.
I gotta add…it still doesn’t mean you can’t transition if you have doubts or fears. As I’ve said many times before, if you don’t have any qualms or fears about transitioning, you may not be mature enough to fully understand the implications of such a decision. I had doubts and fears—even now I occasionally do—but I am confident that I made the right decision. I’m much happier with myself now than I was when I started transitioning physically. But I think the reason why I had those thoughts was that I understood how bad of a choice it COULD be if it wasn’t right for me.
Thankfully, it was the right choice. But don’t ever jump into something like hormones!
Wait is that the case for all intersex people or just some?
Only some. It depends on the variation (and there are many different intersex variations). The most common intersex variation is an enlarged clitoris that resembles a small penis and makes the genitalia look ambiguous; this is a result of unusual hormone levels in the womb, and many with this intersex variation can still reproduce.
I remember general ideas of drunken conversations, but not often specific words. This statement, however, struck out to me; I remember it from earlier tonight.
There’s something freeing about being told I’m allowed to feel bad. That I’m allowed to feel at all.
I have pent up so much pain, so many emotions all these years. It seems like I couldn’t possibly feel bad for what I’ve been through.
After all, I was 12. I was old enough to know what sex was. I was pubescent.
It was my fault. I seduced him.
Even though I did absolutely nothing. And I felt so uncomfortable as he touched me. I felt powerless and didn’t know what to do. I kept volunteering at that godforsaken place because I didn’t want my parents to know anything had gone wrong. I was ashamed indeed.
Now I’m back and finally I’m beginning the healing process—first of which includes admitting I was molested. It’s too bad I’m here for a class, though. I enjoy it, but it hurts like a bitch now that I’m trying to actually work through rather than hide from my feelings. Places, unfortunately, have emotions attached to them.
But I’m glad to be told, “You’re allowed to feel bad.” Because you know what? I didn’t. I didn’t allow myself to feel bad, and I honestly think that allowed me to truly, royally fuck up my sexuality and my perception of said sexuality. I can always think of someone who’s been through much worse. Because of that person, my pain is somehow invalid. Yet, in my hypocritical and self-loathing bullshit, I don’t treat others that way. If someone’s molested, I grieve for them and get infuriated if someone acts like it was no big deal. I always let my friends know that other people’s pain doesn’t make their pain invalid or not meaningful.
I was so infuriated at Josh Duggar when all that molestation crap came out. How morbidly funny is it to think that I was so angry for his sisters and so mad at his mother for minimizing the abuse while I was minimizing similar abuse myself?
If I allow those girls pain, I should allow myself to feel pain as well.
I should allow myself to feel.
At least get something out, something that isn’t blood.
I have to admit, hurting sucks. I don’t like feeling. It’s frustrating, it hurts like a goddamn bitch and I fucking hate it. And I’ve been cussing a lot all day.
But, I have to remember what Eric said on that porch as we blew out cigar smoke:
“You’re allowed to feel bad.”
In that moment, I felt a lot more validated than I’ve felt in much of my life. It was okay to just feel.
Thanks, Eric. Thanks for letting me be honest, letting me just be myself. And thanks for sitting through all the new movies/music I show you and even being interested (I’ll sit through ones you recommend!). You haven’t been in my life long, but you do mean a lot to me already.
By the way, my first slide is probably going to start out like this:
“to be “feminist” in any authentic sense of the term is to want for all people, female and male, liberation from sexist role patterns, domination, and oppression. Simply put, feminism is a movement to end sexism, sexist exploitation, and oppression” This is how feminist author bell hooks describes feminism. If feminism is equality for both sexes, why don’t they talk about men’s issues? Is male privilege as prevalent as we make it seem?
Something like that. But anyways,
We have a 5 minute limit when we present. If I get carried away and go overboard, points will be taken off so I’m only going into depth with two topics.
The first one is primarily about sexual abuse, specifically male victims of rape/abuse, false accusations, their stories not being taken as seriously, the lack of men’s shelters, etc.
Give me ideas for a second topic pls
A slightly related topic of reproductive rigts. Especially since you can transition from male rape victims into child support and other reproductive rights by pointing out that a male rape victim can be forced to pay child support.
If I don’t end up with too much slides, I might include those too. I don’t wanna go above 5 minutes.
I would say, just try to be very succinct about your topics and include as many as you can. And direct people to other resources since there’s only so much you can cover. I could gather some to send you.
I really hope that they don’t cower out of this whole Monte is a pedophile thing with just saying that Sally lied about it because if they handle it right it has the potential to be such an amazing and eyeopening storyline
It seems so out-of-character for Monte…I don’t know how the fuck to feel.
It’s possible Sally was put up to it, threatened by someone to do that. Idk. Either way, it will be interesting.
But I want to sympathize with Monte as a confused person who’s fucked stuff up but isn’t all bad. I liked her.
@ people comparing Monte/Sally to Gabe/Ana - he was three years older than her. Monte has to be almost ten (I’m assuming Sally is 17 and Monte is 26/27).
Probably more like 15. PLUS she’s in a position of educational authority. Even if a professor was initiating things with me, a 19-year-old, that would still be wrong because of the authority and educational power.
Ah, yes. I’m the worst liberal in the world. Not the ones who doxx and send death threats. Not the ones who bully people into suicide over fan art of a children’s show. Not the ones who actively preach hate and encourage violence. Not the ones who advocate censorship. Nope, it’s me.
Anonymous asked: like, instead of showing everyone and their mother what top surgery scars is and basically giving the world at large 'how2spot a transsexual' tutorial, or insisting on 50 gazillion genders and pronouns, and trying to de-medicalise it in favour of it being an ~identity~, maybe these so called 'activists' could focus on some actual issues. but hey, what do i know, i'm just someone who actually has to live with being trans
